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Although moving in with your relatives (or vice versa) might indeed be the best solution for all of you, it’s still wise to consider all the issues that might crop up before a final decision is made.

Practical issues

Practical issues are the easiest to anticipate beforehand. Some things to consider are:

  • is there enough space for everyone to enjoy some privacy, e.g. entertain separately or watch different television programmes?
  • will you all be sharing the main family home or will you (or they) be living in a self-contained flat or annexe?
  • how will the household chores be split? Will you be expected to clean, cook or help with childcare?
  • will you be living close to friends and if not, will they be able to visit, perhaps staying overnight?

Financial issues

Money can be a contentious issue at any age so it’s good to clarify everything before you move in:

  • will you be selling your home or buying another one with relatives?
  • how will household expenses be split?
  • what happens if the arrangement doesn’t work?
  • if it is your property, or you jointly own a home, what are the implications if you should need to go into a care home?
  • what would happen in the event of a marital breakdown if the family home needs to be sold?

Emotional issues

You all want this to work out but before you make your final decision, ask yourself:

  • how well do you really get on with your family, your in-laws and their friends?
  • will you miss having your own home where you can do what you want?
  • will your family respect your wishes, even if they don’t agree with them?
  • if you need day-to-day care in the future, will your relative/s be willing to become your carer/s? Would you be happy about this?
  • what would happen if your family’s circumstances changed? For example, if they have to move towns because of a new job?

Your family as your carers

If you are moving in with your family because you are unable to look after yourself, they are effectively becoming your carer or carers and as such, they will be entitled to a carer’s assessment.

If your carer is aged between 16 and 65 and caring for you for 35 hours a week or more, they may also be able to claim Carer’s Allowance.

N.B. You don’t have to be related to someone or live with the person you care for to claim Carer’s Allowance.

Last updated: 03/04/2016